You're not busy

Busy is not an award.

You don’t get extra credit in life for being busy.

It isn’t something that should be touted over people.

Just because you have lots of people to meet, things to do, and places to go does not make you better than someone who is pleasantly walking through life. 

It is good to be involved, work hard, and be diligent, but not at the expense of others or taking care of yourself. 

In my room I have a single piece of paper hanging on the wall that reads “work harder” in big, bold, and highlighted text. It is my reminder to do more work than I thought I could each day. However, this work comes behind caring for myself and those around me. I want to be healthy and actually live to see how far technology goes, if I’ll start a family of my own, and what happens to the world in the next several decades. Working myself into the ground won’t do any of that for me. 

There are such odd social implications to this “No, sorry I’m busy” stigma. Many people proclaim their busy-ness as a badge of honor. 

Look at me! I’m busy!

Woohoo.

Do your job(s) and get on with it. 

No one cares.

I have respect for those people that work hard (in a healthy way) and say nothing of it. My friend Danielle is one of those people. You would never know how hard she works to do school work, have a job, run campus wide events, and be an incredible friend and family member. She once led student run activities for a week (a full time job in itself), and continued on with classes even though she had mono. She doesn’t stop and she doesn’t tell people about her work. I admire that so much.

Maybe it is the business world that made busy-ness such an sought after trait. If you’re constantly running to meetings, going on business trips, and making decisions you must be important to a company. Right? Or is this just the work laid out in front of you that should just be picked up and done like anyone else in the company.

Let’s not compare each other’s levels of work and busy-ness to gain social ground. There is no point to it, and it only hurts people. Everyone has their own amount of work they can handle, and you don’t always know what other amounts of family or relationship issues are happening and amount of mental work they need to do everyday just to make it through each day.

Finally, never leverage busy-ness as an excuse. Saying “sorry I’m too busy” to someone is so disheartening. It doesn’t do good for anyone. Don’t equate what you have to get done with the precious time spent with others. Relationships and human connections are far more important than the work laid out. Respect is lost each time your amount of busy cuts into the lives of those around you.

Don’t use busy as an achievement or excuse.

Make time for yourself.

It’s okay.